This coming Wednesday a big truck and crew are arriving to buy up all the remaining items of worth. It will take them hours to process all the items into their containers and into the truck. If by chance there is anything left of value, it will be donated.
This will mark an end to a life’s passage for my wife, family, neighbors, friends and me. The psychological and physical toll has been real. I could say enormous, but it varies from person to person. For most, it makes them turn away mentally. There is a powerful consensus that none of us ever want to deal with this again.
For some of us, the price will be enormous indeed. It has changed, perhaps permanently, health (physical and mental), relationships and life’s pathways.
Two little ladies with troubles, obsessions, pains spent a small fortune on the good, the bad, the ugly. They went to their graves unfulfilled and lonely…albeit while they took their final breaths of life they were in the presence of love and respect.
We will never be the same. But, we will have a sense of understanding, compassion, wisdom and reality in dealing with a hoarder. We will have a sense of pride, respect and accomplishment as family and friends in what we were able to do over the long distance of this journey.
There is no euphoria right now. Maybe later? We have been robbed of that by circumstances. Our efforts to draw positive direction and inspiration from this conclusion are muted by internal and external struggles. As we head into Fall and Winter, I pray we can regroup and see the light.
A legacy, that started well long ago awaits us to bring it out of the darker times and into its full potential…of what should have been, and can be.
Attacking a hoarding home is more than muscle, logistics and determination. It is a true test of your self discipline going in; of your self awareness going in; of your beliefs and how you adjust to challenges that are built to defeat you.
As your head swirls at the thought of how to move forward in the whole hoarding cleanup, or the dementia ordeal or the hospice ordeal or the grieving ordeal…avail yourself of all the wisdom out there and feel the positive energy of those that come and go in your life that lend a hand, give a word of support and listen to your stories of frustration.
To all that have read along here for the past few years, we sincerely cannot thank you enough for the overwhelming support and love.
Now let’s see what Wednesday night brings………………………