My Aunt from the South visited her sister (Auntie) today. She was taken back by the change since her last visit. She didn’t stay long. Awkward in that she had said her goodbye’s before. Nonetheless, she mostly talked and my aunt laid there listening. After the departure, my Auntie was still and her arms were quite busy reaching and falling. No pronounced pain. I spend a lot of time rubbing her forehead, temples, hands and the top of her head…very gently. Just kind words and gentle touches.
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Speaking of gentle touches, I have been remiss to not better high light my wife through all this journey. She has been part in parcel through this journey with my mom and aunt for over five long years. From the cancer diagnosis for my mom, doctors appointments, errands, chemo, transfusions, hospital vigils….the decision to do hospice, for my mom, in our home for ‘no more than a month’….to doing hospice care, for my mom, for five months in our home, for all that entailed (she put up with emotional pain from my mom, that my mom did not fling my way) to the final end….to helping tend to my aunt in her home….to running countless errands for my aunt….to winning her over with unabashed love and gentleness….to torturing her damaged back a thousand times over inside my mom’s hoarding home….to running sale after sale….to enduring the stench, the filth, the heat and psychological pain of that cleanup….to working through my Auntie’s hoarding kitchen and trying to prepare for her safe return last Summer….to tending to my aunt when she first came home from the hospital with the broken knee, until we realized she needed to be in a care facility….to visiting my aunt almost daily. My wife has provided my Auntie with immeasurable love and attention that she has sorely missed most of her adult life. My Aunt would smile when she saw me. She lights up when she sees my wife.
Yes, this blog was started for me to vent my emotions, frustrations and my journey after the loss of my mom. My wife dealt with her emotions by pouring her heart into my Auntie. Now, as my Aunt nears the end of her life, my wife is there to the bitter end, but still giving the kind touch to my/our Aunt. It is, in reality, shared strife, grief, pain, fear, exhaustion, joy, blessings, sacrifice.

More often than not, those of you that comment have given your prayers, advice and kindness to me and my ‘family’. Amen to that!

I have always known that your wife was a spectacular woman………….love her, praise her for giving you the strength to face what has been behind and before you…………she is remarkable…….as you well know.
You are lucky to have such a wonderful beautiful supportive wife. With all that everyone has endured and still face to face the support of a loved one is critical. She has gone above and beyond you are blessed and lucky.
Kudos to your wife. She is indeed a life partner. You are lucky to have her, and she is lucky to have you.
You are blessed on so many levels – the enduring love for you Auntie, the strength you have (heart and mind) and your wife, a woman who defines what it means to be a help-mate. I am so full of admiration for you both and I think of you frequently during my days and always have you in prayer – you and your Auntie. I feel as if I know you and your family – I talk about you with my mom (age 90) and she’s very interested in everything going on with you and also prays for you. Please know we think of you often – you are not alone.
And with such a beautiful smile on her face. She is a very special woman to say the least.
You are blessed to say the least.