Standing back, clinically, it is easy to see the stresses of dealing with this in your family. In the moment, you have a small voice cautioning, guiding, reminding you about what is unfolding. Sometimes you resent, rebel, retreat or challenge this sad state of being. No way around it, you have to try to maintain your control and compassion in dealing with this mental maze. It is in their best interest, and it is in the best interest of your mind, heart, health and yes your soul to stay in control. I write this after having miserably handled this over the past few weeks and I knew better….intellectually, clinically…I knew better. And, it did not so much cause any emotional harm to my beloved aunt as it did to me and those around me.
There is an emotional toll here that must be dealt with over the long haul as it does influence all other aspects of your life. But, in the midst of this changing, before your eyes, defenses come up that must be monitored and maintained. Easy to see it from afar. Not so easy in the swirl…….. (image via http://surefiretest.com/)