Until only recently, my Auntie had not allowed anyone to enter her home. This included her sis, my mom (also a bigger hoarder) who provided transportation for her sis. So, when she allowed me to come in and then my wife, to visit and fix things it was quite an achievement.
So, a new accomplishment is convincing her of the need to unbury her furnace. To allow someone in to service it (it hasn’t been running in about 5 years, as she has been ‘conserving oil’ and $$$). On her own, she made an appointment with a furnace service provider for next week. Wow! She cleared away all around the furnace. Remember she is 93 y/o. She cleared the stairs down into the basement. She allowed me down to fix all the burned out light bulbs. She even let me vacuum cobwebs and inches of dust off the window seals and along the edges of the floors and around command center/bedroom/office…the couch.
These are enormous permissions granted in trust and acceptance of an outreached hand. I am not deluded by the bigger, looming tasks. But, they may never be completed let alone initiated anytime soon. For now it is provide a safer, cleaner, warmer, more loving environment for her amongst her stuff.